People Say The Darndest Things

Last night at knitting one of the ladies commented that I am awfully small for a second pregnancy. She never saw me the first time around, so I thought it was a pretty ridiculous comment. But then later she said that it has to be a girl because I said that I thought the baby was sitting low and back. The notion that boys are carried out front is a really common one, and it is such nonsense. The only thing that determines how a baby is carried is the mother’s body. The individual baby moving around affects it too, of course, but it has nothing to do with whether it’s a boy or girl.

(I’m not trying to single out this one person’s comments. TONS of people say things like this.)

Now today on a message board someone is trying to tell me that it is impossible to have any color eyes except brown if you have brown eye genes, because brown is so dominant. And maybe science says that, but Will’s dad has brown eyes and Will’s eyes are blue as are Sam’s. So clearly science is full of shit.

I’m trying to think of other ridiculous beliefs people hold, specifically about pregnancy, but I’m drawing a blank. Probably because I am pregnant and therefore have no brain. Your turn!

21 thoughts on “People Say The Darndest Things

  1. Katherine

    October 2, 2009 at 11:18am

    Don’t blame science! Science understands how parents have children who not EXACTLY like them. Clearly that message board person has no understanding of genetics and gene pairings.

    Here’s a great explanation of brown-eyed parents having blue-eyed babies:

    My favorite pregnancy beliefs are related to how to get pregnant (or not) and “guarantee” the sex of your child. SO DUMB.
    .-= Katherine´s last post ..My Dog Just Keeps Getting Better. =-.

  2. B

    October 2, 2009 at 11:39am

    I had a ton of people telling me that I was having a boy. Actually, both times, but particularly with Claire. I guess because we already had a girl so they figured we’d have a boy. Because it works that way. I guess. As if.

    The best was that my MIL told us with the first pregnancy that she is psychic – a claim her husband back up with a straight face – and that we were having a boy and his name was going to start with the letter “L” because she is psychic and said it was so.

    Fast forward 5 months to my husband calling her to tell her about Katherine after I gave birth and her arguing with him about the fact that we had a girl and that her name was Katherine.
    .-= B´s last post ..Firsts =-.

  3. B

    October 2, 2009 at 11:40am

    However I did see your tweet about the chinese gender predictor and that shit always seems to work. I don’t know how.
    .-= B´s last post ..Firsts =-.

  4. Cazzle

    October 2, 2009 at 11:44am

    My favourite pregnancy myth is morning sickness. Whoever named it that clearly had a wonderful sense of humour. However, I suppose it rolls off the tongue more easily than “every-five-minutes sickness”.

  5. Lisa

    October 2, 2009 at 12:23pm

    I carried all three of my girls differently and my husband and I both have dark brown eyes and our middle girl has gray/blue ones! Some people just like to run their mouths and sound like they know what they are talking about.

  6. Laurie Ann

    October 2, 2009 at 12:41pm

    My mother has brown eyes; my father has blue. Of the five grown children, one has blue eyes, three have brown. I have green. Where did they come from?
    .-= Laurie Ann´s last post ..It’s been a most trying time =-.

  7. ewokmama

    October 2, 2009 at 1:10pm

    crap I forgot to change my login info.

    Anyway, yeah, it totally irritated me when I was pregnant with Jack and people made weird predictions based on how I looked or felt. My MIL kept saying I was having a boy since I wasn’t sick even when I explained to her that my mother was the same way while pregnant with her girls. Grrr.
    .-= ewokmama´s last post ..Mom Wants =-.

  8. Amy

    October 2, 2009 at 1:55pm

    Katherine preempted my science comments! Seriously, I love that website. Incidentally, just to blow your mind: blue-eyed people can totally make brown-eyed babies.

    Furthermore, let it be noted that I hate all people.

  9. georgia

    October 2, 2009 at 7:57pm

    have you heard the one about the line you get down your midsection (i forget what it’s called). if it goes straight though your belly button, you’re carrying a boy. if it goes around the belly button it’s a girl. mine went around. i have a boy. and a very manly one at that.
    .-= georgia´s last post ..Yes, I can. =-.

  10. Annika

    October 2, 2009 at 9:17pm

    Laurie Ann, have you checked into the eye color of the milkman?

  11. Jenn

    October 2, 2009 at 9:43pm

    Sweet science, thank god, is much smarter than random people on message boards. And thanks to that science, I (a brown eye girl) have a blue eye boy.

    Hey, notice how that part is different too? The part where I’m a girl and he’s a boy?!

    I had a bitch at work who kept up with the “there must be twins” which is code for “your ass is really fat there preggers” and I used to pass my time thinking of her being run down by a steam roller.

    The Chinese thing (and every single online test available) said Mal was a girl. To the point where I asked the tech why she was pointing out my daughter’s penis to us during the ultrasound.

  12. Laurie

    October 3, 2009 at 7:55am

    There are a lot of old wives’ tales out there. I happen to believe the one about with a boy, you are only pregnant in front, and with a girl, you are pregnant all the way around. But I agree it is very silly. And it’s possible I have it all backwards anyway.

    The person who said the brown-eyed thing has their genetics backwards. Brown IS dominant, but what that means is that if a parent has brown eyes, it is possible that they have one brown gene and one blue gene, and they could then pass the blue gene down to their child. If the other parent also passes a blue gene down, then the child will have blue eyes.

    What is (mostly) true is that if both parents have blue eyes, they have to have a blue-eyed child, because ALL of their eye-color genes are blue. But I say “mostly”, because it’s more complicated than that, and there are mutations, etc.

    My mother has brown eyes and my dad has blue eyes, and I have blue eyes.

    I have blue eyes and DF has brown eyes, and The Boy has green eyes. Like my sister. Don’t ask me how that happened.
    .-= Laurie´s last post ..Conversation between myself and The Boy: =-.

  13. Anne

    October 3, 2009 at 12:31pm

    I always remember a friend doing the “test” where a sewing needle is attached to a string and then they dangle it above your pregnant belly, and depending on if it goes clockwise or counterclockwise, it’s supposed to tell you the sex of your baby. And supposedly, if you wait a whole minute ater the first test, you can be told the sex of all your future babies too. It predicted mine correctly, but I also had a miscarriage in between kids, so who knows how that mixes in. It’s all so biziarre, silly and yet kind of ridiculously fascinating.

  14. tracey

    October 3, 2009 at 12:52pm

    It’s actually quite scary to hear all of the old wives’ tales that still circulate… Does no one know the genetic probabilities and such? Oy.

    I have blue, dh is brown. We have 1 blue and 2 brown eyed kids. And I didn’t have an affair. ;)
    .-= tracey´s last post ..Who can I blame, now? =-.

  15. Cazzle

    October 4, 2009 at 3:36am

    I’m jealous of all these people with blue or brown eyes! Mine are a really strange mix of blue, grey and green, with brown near the pupil.

  16. Amy

    October 4, 2009 at 3:05pm

    Caz – your eyes would probably be called hazel, since people tend to call I-don’t-know-what-to-call-it eye colors hazel. Which is weird for me, because my mother has hazel eyes, and that’s the only hazel I’ll accept. [/not your fault]

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