The Hits Keep On Coming

Sigh. My Grandma is dying. Step-Grandma. Dorothy. She’s my step-father Bill’s mom. Bill and my mom weren’t married until I was an adult, but Dorothy always treated me and my sister like part of the family. (I don’t think my mom got the same consideration; Dorothy is very old-fashioned.) She was misdiagnosed with pneumonia over Christmas and they finally found lymphoma. She started chemo but it almost killed her, so now she’s home and I guess they’re doing hospice. Bill and Hannah (my step-sister) are headed to Florida to be with her and John.

I haven’t seen anyone from that side of the family in nearly ten years, and I am not good at keeping in touch. My parents weren’t close with their families when I was young, which is no excuse at all but I do feel like I never saw an example of a close-knit extended family except for John and Dorothy’s, and I honestly have no idea how to maintain that closeness. I’m not blaming my parents or anything, I just wish I’d started out with a better idea of how to do this. I am feeling so guilty and wanting to improve the way I relate to my family.

And I’m feeling sad, because I am losing a Grandma. And I’ve never done that before.

Edit, March 18: Dorothy passed away this morning, before Bill and Hannah could get there.

12 thoughts on “The Hits Keep On Coming

  1. Mary

    March 17, 2009 at 8:35pm

    I am sorry to hear that. It is always a hard thing to go through. ((Hugs))

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  2. Anne

    March 18, 2009 at 9:48am

    I’m so very sorry. *hugs*

  3. Amy

    March 18, 2009 at 10:09am

    I’m sorry about your Grandma.

  4. Amie

    March 19, 2009 at 8:20am

    I am so sorry to hear that. My condolences to you and your family.

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