Yesterday Sam and I took a walk. We stopped at the bank, where there is a fountain on the plaza between two buildings (there must be at least half a dozen banks there). Sam hopped out of his stroller and I parked it and followed him as he gleefully played.
After about ten minutes a security guard appeared next to me and said, “You shouldn’t let him play by the fountain. It’s–you know–bad.” I looked at him in disbelief and after a long while with no clarification I said “Ooooooookay” and went back to paying attention to my kid.
Now, I am sure at least one of you wants to say, “It’s the bank rules!” or “He was concerned about liability!” but you will just have to trust me because I was there; he was NOT giving me some company line. There were other kids there and there were adults there too. People ARE allowed at the fountain. He was telling me how to parent. He thought I was doing it wrong.
I don’t know what about me scares people in questionable positions of authority so very much, but I have my suspicions. I treat my kid like a person. I don’t hover. I let him climb on things. Not just let him but help him – when the security guard showed up to tell me I was bad, I was holding Sam’s hand (his idea, not mine).
I would really like for this nonsense to stop. I know how to take care of my kid (despite my feelings to the contrary sometimes). I am not stupid. I am so very, very tired of being treated like a bad mom.